An Introduction To Spanking
By David Strovny -   NEW AskMen.com Sex Book Guide & CD

Sex Education Correspondent - Every Saturday

 
 


 Virtually every man on Earth has had the desire to spank his woman. Whether it's a kinky fetish or simply a spice you want to add to the dish that is your sex life, spanking definitely has its perks.

Today's tip will help men everywhere learn how, when and at what tempo they should be spanking their women.

 

before you rev up your hand
 


In a perfect world, if you wanted to spank your woman, you would just do so and care nothing for the consequences, because, in a perfect world, there would be none. Unfortunately, that's not how it works in the real world.

Before you begin spanking her, you have to first find out if she would actually enjoy the feeling of an open hand coming into slightly harsh contact with her buttocks. If she has ever displayed a liking for dominant sex or enjoys running her nails down your back, then spanking her is surely a go.

If you have absolutely no clue what she wants in bed, then you have to talk to her about it. I know, I know, that sounds incredibly "exciting," but believe me, if you take a moment to ask her if she's ever fantasized about being dominated, her answers may surprise you.

 

what to spank with
 


While you have the option of spanking a butt with a paddle, a whip, or an abundance of other props, I strongly recommend that you start off with your hand. Besides the hand is best as it allows you to get the full feel of the ass-spanking connection.

 

onto the spanking
 


Now before you start warming up your hand in preparation, remember that there are correct and incorrect ways to spank woman. You can't just start smacking away at her ass like a maniac.

No, you need to learn the appropriate way to spank her. That way, it will be enjoyable for her and you will get a thrill out of her reaction. Of course, you have the option of spanking your woman before, during or after sex. But to start, you should spank her exclusively (that means only spanking, not spanking only her).

Now, it's time to bend her over your knee…

 

how to spank her
 


Don't wind up like a maniac just yet; there is an actual etiquette to spanking women:

Warm up
Obviously, I don't mean that you should jog around the block; rather, rub your hands together to ensure that they're warm when they connect with her skin.

Choose the hand
Although right-handed people tend to use their right hands, you can opt to use whichever hand you're more comfortable with -- or even both, just not at the same time.

One cheek at a time
Just to reiterate; never smack both cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way.

Position yourself
Place yourself in a position where you're able to maneuver freely and accurately. The last thing you want to do is smack her on her back or thigh.

Keep your hand tight
By keeping your hand solid and slightly cupping your hand, you ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.

Smack it up
Remember that you're aiming for the meatiest part of her butt, which is the middle. After you actually slap her cheek, rub the area with your hand for a moment before you attempt to have another go at it.

 

let your hand guide you
 


Here are some general guidelines you might want to follow amid your upcoming spankathon.

Make sure you have ample room
If you want to spank that bottom right, you need to ensure that you have enough room to raise your arm freely and spank it accordingly. Sit or stand in a position where your arm can swing freely. This leaves less room for unintended mis-smacks.

Keep the butt in plain view
Her butt should be bare and fully visible for the act. She can be in the doggy position (tight-butted) or lying down flat (loose butted) -- so long as her butt is easily accessible to your hand. Even when she's riding you, you can still spank her sufficiently.

Maintain control
Don't ask things like "Did that hurt?" or "Can I do it harder?" What you should do is spank her and judge what to do by her reaction. If she screams out in agony or says anything remotely close to "are you trying to kill me?" you should refrain from spanking her any harder.

If she doesn't yell out, or better yet if she moans with delight, then I strongly recommend that you spank her slightly harder and don't forget that you shouldn't spank her in quick procession. Take your time, this is an art, after all.

 

when all is said and done
 


Of course, chances are that her butt will be red and sensitive when it's all over, but keep in mind that there is pleasure in certain kinds of pain, and this is one of those pains where this applies.

Until next time, enjoy the sound of your hand connecting to her bottom.