Submission - by kristydoll

What does it mean to be submissive, or Dominant for that matter? Since I am not Dominant, I will stick to the submissive subject. Understand, I can only share what my submission means - I can not define yours - it means something different to each one of us.

I have always posed the question “what is the difference between a sub and a slave?”.  The answer of popularity is that a sub has more rights; a slave, only to obey. I am not quite satisfied with this answer.

Maybe that makes me a sub with slave tendencies. Allow me to explain what I mean. In keeping with my thoughts of BDSM, I am, in my own right, my own person, complete with thoughts, confidence, personality and beliefs. I do not need anyone to remold me into a “new” or “better” person. What I need is someone to accept the person I am and what I have to offer.

My submission comes from wanting to please, of giving all. To learn, know, and understand what is desired of me, then to be able to give that freely and with love, is the gift I give and the gift that brings me the greatest pleasure.

This is where the line between sub and slave becomes fuzzy for me. My giving leads me to the place of “no choice”. My desire to please is not a choice but a need. So you see, I am left without choices, my only wish to fulfill what is desired of me.

Slaves have also been defined to me as “property”. I have no bad feelings with this term.  In fact, I give so completely, that I do feel “owned”...for I have chosen to be so. There is security in this for me.  To be owned, cherished property, means I will be greatly loved, cared for and protected.

My submission also labels me many things: a lover, friend, girl, slut, toy, as well as others. Again, I accept this and enjoy my role as all. I will do and be all that is desired of me, and I do so with great pleasure and dedication.

My submission also means that I am a willing student. I strive to learn well and accept discipline when I fail. I have strong views on this point too but will save that for another time.

To come to a point, my submission is “all” - my mind, body, heart and soul. The gift of my mind, to learn and understand all that is expected and needed from me. My body, my own pleasure coming from it’s use. My heart, for I give all my love.  And my soul, for I give my total trust.

I am secure in my submission. I do not give this gift at a whim, but when there is true trust, respect, understanding and love, it is the most important and valuable thing I can offer. I stand strong, proud and true in my submission, and that in itself, is an empowering feeling.